Online Dating – Potential Dangers and Disasters

You’ve just clicked the last box in the long list of procedures to join XYZ online dating service, confident that everything you put in your profile was exactly as you wanted. You double checked, didn’t you?

Oops, you accidentally left in some key information that will make you readily identifiable to all your friends, family and co-workers. Now everybody will know about your absolute sheer desperation to find a partner.

Or worse! You put on your profile a photograph of yourself, half-plastered with alcohol at the last Christmas party, lipstick smeared across your cheeks (I haven’t mentioned any gender here, so whatever pictures you have in your mind are entirely your input).

So, you see. This is a potential minefield…and we haven’t even been out on our first date yet, have we?

But don’t despair or feel that the cat is out of the bag. You can always go back to the profile and change the details/remove the photos/delete your entire account if you are scared enough.

But let’s be serious here for a moment. In the following paragraphs I’m going to go through the three most apparent “dangers” of Internet dating.

The Stalker

Yes, ladies and gentlemen. I will put this horrible creature at the top of the list. We have all heard the horrifying stories that have often ended in tragedy. Even murder. Quite often these terrible events have come after encounters on the more “adult-oriented” sites. Perhaps a threesome has become a deadly game filled with jealousy and hatred, after what seemed to be such a cool idea at the time.

Even on a more mundane level, there are nutters out there who have harassed poor women (and men) to the point of psychological breakdown. Yep, it happens.

But, there are ways to avoid this. These guidelines, by no means a definitive list, are especially relevant for women and may help you in a tricky situation.

  1. Never put direct contact details in a profile. Most dating sites will not allow this anyway, as long as their screening procedures are up to standard.
  2. Make sure your first meetings are in well-patronized areas, like a food-court in a shopping mall, or some other busy place. That way, if the man/woman turns out to be less than what you hoped for, you can blend into the crowd before slipping away.
  3. If you feel nervous, take along someone you know and trust well and have them observe you from a distance. You won’t believe how much more confident this makes some women feel.
  4. Don’t give your phone number to your new online friend until you feel it is safe to do so. When is this? Certainly not after date number one.
  5. This may sound drastic, but keep some form of protection (in addition to condoms!) in your handbag (mace, capsicum spray, a very loud alarm device) in case you find yourself alone and in an intimidating environment. In the same vein, go and get some self-defense lessons – it will keep you fit and desirable as well as give you valuable knowledge about groin attacks and the like!

The Don Juan Crook

These are men, nine times out of ten, and there are more and more stories of these guys emerging every day.

This is where a super-charmer convinces their new date/partner that they are world-famous, super successful and know all the celebrities. For some reason or other, all their funds are tied up in something, and they cannot get their hands on ready cash for day-to-day living, or for some other “sure-fire” investment.

Before you know it. Mr or Mrs Gullible Internet Dater have handed over their bank account details, credit cards, or even packed the rolls of cash into the suitcase before driving Don Juan to the airport and kissing him good-bye as he boards the plane for Rio!

How do you avoid these crooks? It can be difficult for lonely folks, especially widows and widowers (beware the female black spider!), so the best advice here is to enlist a friend or two to give you an absolutely candid appraisal of your new-found Prince/Princess Charming.

The Dishonest Dating Site with Fake Members

This problem had a bit of press in Australia recently. I won’t name the actual site, but the owners were punished by the courts and made to apologize to their members.

Sadly, it can be hard to spot the fake profiles, sometimes answering you via sophisticated software programs, or even by real people paid to pretend they are someone else (backpackers in Australia, for instance).

If you aren’t careful, these pseudo-daters can waste a lot of your valuable time and money.

The best way to avoid being scammed in this way is to ask specific questions that only a real person would know the answers to. For example, ask about current events in your local area. If they can’t or won’t answer, you might be dealing with a robot!

However, in my opinion, Internet dating is a great option in today’s fast-paced world. People are time poor, and lack the freedom to socialize they way it used to be in the “good old days’.

Online daters just need to be alert to the potential dangers, and take the appropriate steps to minimize the damage.

Happy dating!

Online Dating Guide For Men Over 40

In fact, maturity gives you distinctive advantages. By now you know who you are and what you want in life. The women you will be dating also have grown up and learned how to live their lives. It’s time for less games and more transparency and openness.

1. Write down what you seek.

You can get exactly what you are looking for. If you simply want some casual encounters, enjoying ladies’ attention and entertaining, this is achievable.

If you desire a committed partner to spend the rest of your life with, it’s also possible to find. You are still young enough to make it happen.

Even if you dream about family and kids, it’s not too late. For example, Slavic women from countries of the former USSR with unfortunate gender ratios are seeking partners online and they are willing to accept someone older to be able to realize their dreams of family and marriage.

For instance, in Ukraine women are in the situation of 86 males for 100 females. It’s plainly impossible for some single ladies to find partners. A single 35-year-old Belarus woman would be usually open to accept a man who is 30-50 years old, or even older. Besides, a 35-year-old lady will be really eager to cut the chase and get married quickly to start a family sooner. Such realistic options in our age of total Internet connectivity became accessible to anyone.

No matter what you are looking for, there is a quick and efficient way to make your dreams come true. Just be honest about what you really desire and don’t sell yourself short.

2. Get great photos.

Online dating is all about presentation. You will improve your chances to meet quality women and cut down rejections dramatically if you have an excellent photo in your profile, as compared with a gloomy selfie shot.

Save yourself time and money that you will inevitably waste in dead-end dates by getting nice pictures for your online dating profile.

>> Women love style. A guy in a collared shirt and pants looks more attractive to ladies than a man in a stretched T-shirt. Better quality women pay even more attention to the way you dress.
>> Smiling in your photo helps you appear approachable and happy with your life.
>> Beautiful surroundings lift up the spirit of your photo. It makes your picture stand out from the crowd.

3. Write positive texts.

We all know people who manage to bring the liveliest party down. Certainly, no one wants to spend the rest of their lives-or even one date!-with someone who constantly complains. If you want to talk about things that are important for you, make sure you do it in a positive way.

For instance, instead of “I despise smokers” write “I prefer people who do not smoke”.

4. Be open and truthful.

It may be tempting to shave a few years or pounds in your online dating profile but resist the urge. Sure, we’d love to think that we look younger than our biological age. This is quite typical for people, while it’s unlikely for anyone to make a statement, “I look older than my age”.

Ladies will notice if you indeed look good for your age and they will be excited about it. But starting with lies is not a good way and could drive the girl to feel used. Rather tell the truth and lay a strong foundation for a first-class connection.

5. Let them see the real you.

There are certain things that make you unique. If your friends were asked to characterize you in 3-4 words, what would they say? You may think some of your distinct features are unremarkable or even negative, but you could be surprised, there are other people who have a different view. They find such traits attractive or admirable.

Some Romanian women may view certain qualities in a man attractive, while local ladies would see them in a different light. By the way, even in your local area people have different opinions. By being sincere you will attract like-minded people and put off the ones who are unsuitable for you.

This is why it’s best to describe precisely what makes you the person you are. That’s the easiest way to find a good match through online dating.

Online Dating Guide – Practice Safety When Engaging in Online Dating

The Internet has paved the way for millions of single people from all over the world to find love by just by joining dating sites online. Though you may have heard of true success stories about a man or woman finding their one true love over the Internet, online dating is not a guaranteed success. If you plan to join a matchmaking site, there is an online dating guide that you need to follow to avoid major disappointments, or worse, becoming a victim to sexual predators operating online. This online dating guide will show you how to practice safety when joining a dating site online.

Never Disclose Your Financial Information

Sad to say, the Internet has become a breeding ground of hackers, criminals, and sexual predators just waiting to pounce on their next victim. One very important tip you can find in this online dating guide is to never disclose personal financial information on your profile or to anyone whom you have met through the dating site. Of course, you may have to give out your credit card information to the site itself if you signed up for a paid membership. But that is it. Keep all financial details to yourself.

Keep Very Personal Information To Yourself

One other very important tip that this online dating guide wants to point out to you is to never display personal details that opportunistic predators can get hold of. These information include your home phone number, home address, and even your email address. Reputable online dating websites will have a set up where you can send and receive messages on the site itself.

Agree To Meet In A Public Place For Your First Date

Any good online dating guide will strongly recommend that you make your first meeting with someone you met online in someplace public. If it is your first, second, or even third meeting, never ask to meet up at either of your homes. Get to know the person really well first before you even ask him or her to pick you up from your own home.